Coming "out of the fog"...where adoptees describe their experience as being "...like the feeling of being engulfed with another person in a blanket of fog", Reeves (1971), p160. Listen Here:
play.acast.com/s/two-lucky-bds/1b32d1c9-f2b2-4590-94d5-126d0cc5cff4 This is episode one of Two Lucky B*#%*@ds released on October 16th, 2020 (run time 52.17). It is quite a ramble through some of the big issues for adoptees (many of which will be picked up in more details future episodes). In this episode Lance and Sande consider the etymology of the word "bastard"; what the word meant and the implications for the adoptive self today. They also explore the Baby Scoop Era. The Baby Scoop is a term that came out of the United States and referred to the period starting after the end of World War II (1945) and ending in approximately 1972. It was characterised by an increased rate of premarital pregnancies over the preceding eras, along with a higher rate of newborn adoptions, many of which were forced. In reality the Baby Scoop Era was not limited to the United States. A similar social development took place simultaneously in the United Kingdom, New Zealand, Australia, and Canada. You can read more about it here: babyscoopera.com/home/what-was-the-baby-scoop-era/ Another concept that is discussed is The Fog. The term has come to be associated with the process of moving from knowing little or nothing about ones adoption through the transition to acceptance, search, reunion and beyond. You can read more about this here: confessionsofahopefilledadoptee.weebly.com/blog/category/adoption-fog Lance also refers to a useful blog by Anne Heffron where coming "out of the fog" is compared to having a stroke. Anne is an amazing adoption advocate and author. That blog can be found here: www.anneheffron.com/home/2017/12/16/how-coming-out-of-the-fog-is-like-having-a-stroke Sande and Lance each mention books that have impacted them. Sande mentioned Nancy Verrier's book, The Primal Wound which is an adoption primer, and Lance highlighted the sequel, Coming Home to Self. Both books, and loads more can be found on Nancy's website: nancyverrier.com/ Lance also mention the first book that he read about adoption, called Death by Adoption. Sadly the book is out of print, but you can read more about it here: confessionsofahopefilledadoptee.weebly.com/book-reviews Two articles that were mentioned considering the lack of progress in New Zealand around acknowledgement and apology can be found here: New Zealand Herald article, 2018: www.nzherald.co.nz/nz/no-answer-on-forced-adoption-there-must-be-some-compassion-somewhere/QM26O7IYPDMJIA4JOHNNSG2AQE/#:~:text=An%20unknown%20number%20of%20young,from%20the%201950s%20to%201970s Stuff article, 2016: www.stuff.co.nz/dominion-post/news/82793165/nzs-hidden-baby-scoop-shame---unmarried-women-had-their-babies-taken-from-them Finally, in an attempt to save his soul, Lance found this article considering the discussions around the Legitimacy of Jesus' birth: core.ac.uk/download/pdf/189103209.pdf Sande mentioned the work of JIGSAW in the 1970s and 80s in New Zealand. To find out more about the history of adoption in New Zealand check out the Adoption New Zealand website: adoptionnz.com/?page_id=118 Adoption Action Lance mentioned the current New Zealand adoption advocacy group Adoption Action who exist to propose and promote changes to adoption laws, policies and practices that will enhance the rights and wellbeing of children affected by adoption, eliminate the discriminatory provisions in current New Zealand adoption laws, introduce new laws which will reflect current social attitudes and values and will accord with national and international human rights standards, reduce the risk of sale, trafficking and inhumane treatment of children in inter-country adoption, collect statistics and undertake research which will increase community knowledge and understanding of the effects of adoption on those involved and will cast light on past adoption practices, and disseminate information in relation to adoption laws, policies and practices to members, to the media and to the public generally. You can find out more about what they do here: adoptionaction.co.nz/
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